Feel secure in your relationships-
let go of old patterns
Relationship Anxiety, Relationship OCD & Social Anxiety
When you’re dealing with things like relationship OCD, social anxiety, or relationship anxiety, it can feel like your mind just won’t let you relax. One moment you're overthinking a text, the next you're questioning the entire relationship. It’s a lot — especially when everything feels tangled and hard to name.
These things don’t always show up in neat little boxes. You might be experiencing one, a mix of these challenges, or all of them at once. Either way, it can feel overwhelming. That’s where I come in. I’m here to help you sort through it, make sense of what’s going on, and start feeling more secure in yourself and your connections.
The goal? To help you enjoy your relationships without all the spiraling, second-guessing, or stress.
Here’s a quick look at the kinds of relationship struggles I support people with:
What is Social Anxiety?
Social anxiety is that intense feeling of being super self-conscious or worried about being judged, embarrassed, or awkward around other people — especially in social situations. It’s more than just “shyness” — it can make things like meeting new people, going to parties, speaking up in groups, or even just hanging out feel really stressful or overwhelming.
Your brain might jump to worst-case scenarios, like thinking everyone’s noticing your every move or waiting for you to say the wrong thing. Because of this, you might avoid certain situations or stick to what feels safe — but that can make the anxiety feel even bigger over time.
Social anxiety is common, and there are great ways to manage it and start feeling more comfortable being yourself around others.
Social anxiety is treated with a lot of the same tools used for OCD. For example, ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention), CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), and ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy). These approaches help you face your fears bit by bit, challenge unhelpful thoughts, and build more flexibility around uncomfortable feelings.
With time and practice, you can learn to be more present, confident, and less controlled by anxiety in social situations.
What is Relationship OCD?
Relationship OCD (ROCD) is where your brain gets stuck in a loop of doubt, fear, and overthinking about your relationships. While it often shows up in romantic relationships, it can affect any close connection.
Even if everything appears fine on the outside, ROCD can cause you to:
Constantly question whether you really love your partner
Worry if they love you enough
Obsess over whether this is the “right” relationship
Over-analyze conversations, texts, or small behaviors
Seek reassurance from your partner (or others) repeatedly
Compare your relationship to others constantly
These thoughts go beyond typical relationship worries — they’re often intrusive, distressing, and difficult to shut off, creating anxiety and emotional exhaustion.
ROCD can make you feel unsure, even when there’s no real issue in the relationship. You might find yourself constantly trying to “figure out” your feelings or find certainty — but never feeling fully satisfied with the answers.
It can make dating or being with someone feel exhausting, even when you care deeply. Relationship OCD is treated just like any other form of OCD. When you work with an OCD therapist, you’ll find an evidence-based approach that fits you and your experience.
What is Relationship Anxiety?
Relationship anxiety can show up in different ways depending on your attachment style — and just like you, your attachment style can grow and change over time. If you have an anxious attachment, you might feel worried a lot about whether your partner really cares, need constant reassurance, or fear being left or rejected — even when there’s no real reason to worry.
On the other hand, if you lean more towards an avoidant attachment, you might keep people at a distance, struggle with getting too close, or feel uncomfortable with too much emotional intimacy. You might pull away when things start to feel serious or feel anxious when your partner wants more connection.
This usually comes from early experiences or past relationships that made you feel uncertain about whether people would be there for you. Relationship anxiety doesn’t have to run the show. With the right support, you can understand where it’s coming from and start building more secure relationships— I’m here to guide you through that.
OCD Therapy in Boston, MA and Los Angeles, CA
Whether you’re on the East Coast or the West Coast, I’m here to support you. At my practice, I offer OCD therapy for clients in Boston, MA and Los Angeles, CA. So no matter where you live, you can get the evidence-based treatment and guidance you need.
Working with me means getting personalized support for your unique experience—whether it’s social anxiety, relationship OCD, or overthinking that’s interfering with your daily life. Together, we’ll find strategies that help your mind feel calmer and your relationships feel safer. Therefore, you can start living with more clarity and confidence.
Start Feeling Safer and More Confident in Your Relationships
Living with social anxiety, relationship OCD, or relationship anxiety can make even everyday interactions feel overwhelming. You might find yourself overthinking texts, questioning your feelings, or worrying that you’re not “enough” in your relationships. I know how exhausting that can feel—and I also know that it doesn’t have to be this way.
If you’re ready to explore therapy, I invite you to schedule a session. Whether you’re in Massachusetts or California, help is available and recovery is possible.
Explore my blog posts for more insights into OCD counseling and recovery.
Let’s talk about your unique experience and explore the next steps toward feeling more secure, present, and at ease.
Additional Services Offered
In addition to supporting social anxiety and relationship challenges, I also provide therapy for OCD and anxiety in all their forms. While this page focuses on how these challenges show up in social life and relationships, I offer guidance for the broader impact OCD and anxiety can have on your daily experiences.
For a closer look at common OCD themes and treatment approaches, check out my OCD Themes page.